We live in a world where relationships rarely last forever. It’s no longer uncommon for someone to have a half-sibling or step-sibling or whatnot. But what is uncommon is when half-siblings are raised together even though they don’t share a custodial parent.
There’s a guy I went to high school with that has two daughters. And his daughters have two different mothers. One of the mother’s is the younger sister of a girl I went to elementary school with (and their older sister is the same age as my sister). When I was young, being that my sister and I were the same age as this lady’s two sisters, I spent time at her house. The mother of the other daughter is someone I apparently went to high school with, yet I don’t know that I ever actually met or spoke with her.
I am friends on Facebook with all three of those involved here — the father and both mothers. And the mothers are friends on Facebook with each other. Yet neither one of the mothers is still friends with the fathers. I see photos, and he’s still active in his daughters’ lives, and I think that’s fantastic. He’s at their parties and sporting events and he takes them to the circus and other such things. But what really touches me are the photos I see of the two mothers and their daughters. Together. These two ladies who have no connection other than a mutual ex are raising their daughters as sisters. And the girls are sisters. But these ladies didn’t have to become friends and raise their daughters together. The fact that they are though has truly touched me.
So, this is my tribute to these two mothers:
To the Mothers Raising Your Daughters as Sisters:
I want you to know that I think both of you are very strong women. What you’re doing isn’t easy. I can’t even image being in your shoes. Your daughters are both precious and beautiful girls, and I think it’s so special that you’re allowing them to grow up being close to each other.
You didn’t have to. I’m sure you already knew that though. There are plenty of situations in this world where children don’t grow up knowing their half-siblings. But you aren’t letting that happen with your daughters.
You had them in ballet together. You took them to ride the Pink Pig at Macy’s together. You took them to the zoo together. You have them playing t-ball together. You make sure their at each others’ birthday parties. You are letting your precious little girls grow up as sisters.
And I’m sure you are both very aware of this already, but you didn’t have to do this. You didn’t have to make the choice to raise your daughters together. You didn’t have to become friends with each other. But you did it for your daughters’ sake. And believe me when I say that I understand how special that is.
You two have chosen a path that isn’t easy, and I commend you for it. Truly, I do. And one day, your daughters will realize what you’ve done and what it means, and they will be very thankful and grateful to you for letting them grow up together and allowing them to be so close.
What you do is noticed. And it is appreciated.
You are two truly inspiring women. Never forget that.
Someone watching from a distance