As everyone knows, yesterday was Father’s Day. And I’m also fairly certain that I saw every single person say “your dad may be great, but mine’s the best” (or some variation of that). And who knows, maybe you’re right. All I know is that yesterday was an eye-opening day for me, and there are some things I never considered that I am now very very grateful for.
My Dad is great. He really is. He was always super supportive while I was growing up, and even now, if I need him, he’s always there for me.
But this post isn’t about my Dad.
This is about DM, my boyfriend.
I grew up in a non-broken home. My parents have been married for 36 years. And that’s pretty much unheard of these days. But I never realized how grateful I should be for that fact.
I never had to worry about either of my parents telling me negative things about the other parent. I never had to worry about whether or not I was actually going to get visitation with a parent that I rarely saw (or, conversely, if I had to go visit a parent that I didn’t want to be seeing).
I was lucky. And I’m grateful for that.
But not everyone is so lucky.
DM has been married before. This was most definitely a sore subject for me when I met him, simply because I had never imaged myself as ever being with someone that had been divorced. And to make matters worse, it was a pretty ugly divorce (and the situation still isn’t great for him or his kids).
When he first asked me out, I said no (repeatedly) for three reasons: he was old, he had kids, and he smoked…. Two of the three he couldn’t do anything about. (He did quit smoking though, which is pretty awesome.)
At that point in my life, I didn’t want kids. And not just then; I didn’t want them at all. Ever. So the idea of dating someone with kids was almost repulsive.
But a lot has changed in the last three and a half years.
I’ve heard some women talk about how they know their boyfriend/fiancé/husband will make a great dad one day. But I will never say that about DM.
Because I don’t have to. I already know what a great dad he is.
I’d be lying if I said things are great, because they aren’t. No, he and I don’t get to see his kids as much as we’d like. No, we don’t get to talk to them as much as we’d like. But that doesn’t change the fact that I know how much he loves them and what he’d do for them. I see on a regular basis what a great dad he is to his kids.
A perfect example of that is yesterday. We were able to see his kids for lunch yesterday for Father’s Day. It was a short time together, but it was fun. Just the chance to have the five of us together again was amazing in and of itself. Plus, it’s always heartwarming to watch DM interact with his kids.
So if/when he and I have kid(s) of our own, I know he’ll still be a great dad.
And ya know what, if it weren’t for having grown up with a pretty spectacular dad, then I wouldn’t know what a great dad looks like. It’s because of my own dad (who is awesome) that I know what a great dad DM is and will be. And I am eternally grateful to have both of these really amazing men in my life.
Did you have a great Father’s Day with your dad/step-dad/grandfather/boyfriend/fiancé/husband/etc? Did you have an ah-ha moment of clarity on something you should be grateful for because of the wonderful men in your life? If so, I would love for you to share below!