If you missed my announcement from the end of March, I’m pregnant!
And, in an interesting twist of fate, my sister and I are both pregnant right now. She’s due a month after me. And with this being her second child, she started showing far sooner than I did. Even now, she’s lost weight, I’ve gained weight, and she still looks far more pregnant than I do. And you know what, I’m okay with that. Except for the fact that she CONTINUES to make comments about how she’s lost weight. All the while, other people still can’t tell I’m pregnant (if they don’t know me) or make comments about how tiny I am.
Yes, I was small at the smart of my pregnancy. I have a small frame. Not entirely unnaturally small or unhealthy or anything like that. Just, not quite the athletic build I had in high school. I was happy with my weight and my size.
By the time I went to the doctor for my 20-week anatomy scan, I had gained roughly 11 pounds. Yet, the day before my appointment, I had a coworker than wouldn’t make a boy or girl vote, because she said “You’re not pregnant”, all because I didn’t LOOK pregnant. But to myself, who realized how small I’d been before I’d gotten pregnant, I could tell I was showing, and I felt big.
And then, you’ve got my sister, who’s lost weight, but she looks bigger. And I don’t know if she’s had people comment about her weight or not.
When a woman gets pregnant, her body changes. And the truth is, every pregnancy and every body is different.
Someone may look like they’ve gained 20 pounds when they’ve actually lost 10. Someone may look like they’ve gained nothing when they’ve gained 20. The things is, you can NOT actually tell by looking at someone how much they weigh or how much they’ve gained/lost.
And this doesn’t just apply to women that are pregnant. We do this with EVERYONE. And we need to STOP! Seriously. Can we just agree to talking about weight sucks and always will and just stop doing it? Because what you think should make someone feel good may be super insulting.
We need to be encouraging to each other. We need to lift each other up, not tear each other down. Be positive. But dangit, there are better ways to do that than by talking about someone’s weight. Someone’s weight is not a reflection of who they are as a person. So let’s just stop talking about it and stop judging people based on it.