This topic/post is a little out-dated now, because I AM married now. But when DM and I had Baby Girl, we weren’t. So, yeah.
Yes, I was pregnant. And no, I didn’t get married.
And I guess that was one of my biggest pet-peeves after I announced that I was pregnant – people asking when the wedding is. Here’s the thing, it was 2016, not 1955. Women don’t exclusively stay on to take care of the house while the many goes out and works. Women have jobs and careers. Sometimes men stay home to take care of the house and kids. So you know what? You don’t HAVE to get married JUST because you’re pregnant.
Truth is, sure, we did things a little out of order. And, sure, we were planning to be married before having kids together. But you know what, sometimes life doesn’t care about your plans and things happen anyway. And that’s okay.
Sure, after I told DM that I was pregnant, he did say something about us getting married. But my response was “Uhhhh, no.” I’ve seen too many people who got married ONLY because of a pregnancy, and it didn’t work. I wasn’t going to let that be us. I wasn’t going to be forced into some wedding/marriage JUST because I was pregnant.
Yes, I wanted to marry DM.
I was going to marry DM on my terms though. And when the time was right for us. Not when society said we should because of a pregnancy.
Sure, plenty of people said negative things about it. We heard things from DM’s ex-wife. I heard things from co-workers. We heard things from family. But you know what – it worked for us. And that’s what matters.
You should definitely head over to see how our wedding turned out though!