As a blogger, there has to be a realization that we are willingly putting ourselves into a spotlight. We are opening ourselves up to criticisms and attacks. It’s bound to happen at some point. But that doesn’t make it any easier when it does.
Recently, someone who I had rather never know about my blog found it and read it. And it caused a royal shitstorm in my personal life. Certain posts that were not meant negatively against anyone were read and interpreted in a very negative way. But it didn’t just cause problems for me, it caused problems for others.
So, I took my blog down.
I didn’t feel like I had a choice.
I wanted and needed to protect the others who were innocent to the situation, and I felt the best course of action was to take down every post I had up. And I hated it. I hated every minute of it.
How was it fair that one person’s views of what I had written (or posted on social media, because that was involved to) should get to control how I live my life?
But, as I said to start, as a blogger, we open ourselves up to this. And I knew that one day this could happen.
My blog and my social media accounts are my thoughts and my opinions. But, I will not knowingly subject innocent people to the criticism and backlash that comes with it. My instagram (which I am trying to still heavily integrate with both my blogging and personal life) is now private so that I can have a bit more control over who sees my content. The posts that seemed to be most problematic for the person who took issue with my blog were not republished when I decided to bring my blog back.
Every person is entitled to their own thoughts an opinions. And these thoughts and opinions are allowed to evolve and change. But once we post something on a blog or social media, it’s there for good. And I’ve learned my lesson from this, that I have to be more careful about what I share.
On the flip-side, I love the sense of community that can come with blogging. Some of my best and closest friends are people I have met through blogging. And I wouldn’t change that for the world.
Have you ever posted or shared something that created controversy or that you wish you hadn’t? How did you handle it?